Try putting "I" back into your vocabulary. We often focus on family and everyone else before we focus on ourselves. Say I am going to do achieve what I want for me.
Don't count on luck for your success. Set your sights on hard work and dedication. Focus on working hard and being dedicated to what you do and you will feel lucky that you have done so.
As humans tend to avoid change, saying "Well we've always done this." So when doing something isn't working then it must be time to make a change. Have the courage to make a change. You can do it.